"Grief is the normal and natural emotional reaction to loss or change of any kind." The Grief Recovery Institute®
If you are reading this website there is a high probability that your heart is broken.
It may have been caused by:
- death, either recent or long ago
- divorce or the breakup of a romantic relationship
- an awareness that your life is not as happy or fulfilling as you want it to be
- any of the more than forty other losses that a person can encounter during a lifetime
While grief is normal and natural and clearly the most powerful of all emotions, it is also the most neglected and misunderstood experience, often by both the grievers and those around them. Grief is the feeling of wishing things would have ended different, better or more.
Regardless of the cause of your broken heart, you know how you feel and it probably isn't good.
I am not going to tell you how you feel. You already know. And I will not tell you, "I know how you feel," because I don't. Neither does anyone else.
When someone important to us dies, it represents an end to what has been familiar for us and we must adapt to that new, usually unwanted, reality. Our lives are different after someone meaningful to us dies. We do not know how to act any more, we don't know how to carry out everyday tasks any more, nothing is the same.
Grief is the conflicting feelings caused by the end of or change in a familiar pattern of behavior. Conflicting feelings arise when someone you love dies after suffering a long illness, you may feel a sense of relief that your loved one's suffering is over. That is a positive feeling, even though it is associated with a death. At the same time, you may realize that you can no longer see or touch that person. This may be very painful for you. These conflicting feelings, relief and pain, are totally normal in response to death.
Divorce produces conflicting feelings too. You may feel a genuine sense of freedom now that the battles are over. That is a positive feeling. At the same time, you may be afraid that you will never "find someone as beautiful/as good a provider." These conflicting feelings, freedom and fear, are also natural responses to loss.
Other losses can produce these conflicting feelings, as well. We are not taught how to deal with these feelings so we most generally will bury them deep within us. As a result, they will only resurface later disguised as something other than loss causing destruction and chaos in our lives.
All relationships have aspects of familiarity whether they are romantic, social, familial or business. While death and divorce are obvious losses many other loss experiences have been identified that can produce grief.
Other losses are:
- death of a pet
- starting school
- death of a former spouse
- end of addictions
- major health changes
- financial changes-positive or negative
- legal problems
- empty nest
- loss of trust
- loss of safety
- loss of control over one's body
Grief is normal and natural, but we have been ill prepared to deal with it. Grief is about a broken heart, not a broken brain. All efforts to heal the heart with the head fail because the head is the wrong tool for the job. It is like trying to paint with a hammer-it only makes a mess.
The Grief Recovery Method® facilitated by your specialist, Dr. Krysstine, will ask you to understand concepts and to take actions to heal your broken heart. It is never too soon to begin the process of recovery. Wouldn't you like to feel at peace, stop your heart from being in pain and feel normal once again? Now is the time to contact Dr. Krysstine. Dr. Krysstine can help.